Oh, it’s that day again. No, not Friday the 13th, much much worse …. Valentine’s Day arghhhhhh!!!!!!
I can’t actually think of a Valentine’s Day that I have ever enjoyed. Even when I’ve been in a relationship in its early days, it’s proved to be a damp squib. I’m afraid that I grew up with this romantic ideal in my head about this day and I’m finding it difficult to shift.
When I was a teenager, I longed for someone to woo me and sweep me off my feet with a dozen red roses. It’s all rather laughable now but my desire to be loved certainly had a bearing on me ending up in an endless cycle of miserable relationships (not to mention the abusive ones).
I find Valentine’s Day to be a painful reminder that I am still single and have utterly failed to keep a relationship going. As much as try to think of the day as an excuse for shops to sell you red
plastic shite, I know that I will wake up with a hint of sadness in my chest.
I’m no longer the wistful, naive teenager who believed in fairy tale endings.
I’m quite a bit older and more cynical and also more realistic of my chances i.e. zero.
What may escape you about Valentine’s Day is that it is also the day when women stand up for the One Billion Rising campaign …. 1 in 3 women across the globe experience rape or violence at the hands of a man. Visit their website – please – and see if there is a local event for you to take part in:
I think this is a much better way to spend the day and far more loving! Women standing together to show their love and solidarity with their sisters. Standing together to show the world that we care about all women and that the time has come to put an end to violence against women. Now that would be the best Valentine’s gift anyone could ever give me.
Wishing you a peaceful day this February 14th. Reach out to those women who need you and allow yourself to be cared for too.
Love and solidarity
Handy tip for those of you who say to your partner ‘I won’t be forced by this day to show my love to you or pamper you etc etc …… This is something I’ll do when I want to’
If you’re going to say that, make sure you actually do it #justsaying