Worrying turn of events – #BackOff 


Please read the above posts by Katherine O’Brien of

This is a very worrying development and I have to say that I am not only gravely concerned but incredibly angry. Once again, it just validates the argument even further for new legislation. 
As I have been saying all along, if the law was adequate protestors would be stopped and arrested NOT allowed to continue harassing women and having convictions for such overturned. 
Please keep lobbying your MP to sign Diane Abbott and Caroline Lucas’ early day motions. The more political support we get, the better. 
Thanks for your continued support 



Buffer Zone Update #backoff


I was  very disturbed to read an update from Katherine O’Brien (BPAS Media and Public Policy Manager) regarding anti abortion protests out side clinics. 

Katherine has very kindly allowed me to detail the points raised in her email. 
1. “The situation is deteriorating – and the government continue to ignore the protesters campaign of intimidation. We have received no Ministerial response from the Home Office, they have refused to meet with us, and they have refused to issue national guidance on dealing with protesters to local police forces. ” I also have had no response from the Home Office. 

2. “A clinic is closing down due to protests.” I find this deeply worrying. The lack of action by the Government is causing women’s access to abortion clinics to be reduced. It’s a slippery slope towards the erosion of abortion services. Abortion is legal in this country, women are not doing anything wrong and have a right to safe health care.  

 3.”The Home Office insists that abortion clinic buffer zones are not necessary, that police have all the powers they need and are able to manage clinic protests locally. We know this is simply not the case. Existing legislation has failed – and the government have failed to take this growing problem seriously. Women are still harassed on a daily basis outside clinics, called murderers, filmed, and confronted with graphic banners. Just last week anti-abortion protesters in Richmond took photos of an ill member of staff being taken away from a clinic in an ambulance. The police refused to do anything about this.”  I completely agree. If the law was adequate then these protests would not be happening. Women, staff and members of public would not feel threatened to walk in to a clinic or even walk past a clinic! 

4.”……. and have also written to Rt Hon Mike Penning MP, Home Office Minister, again to ask for a meeting as a matter of urgency. Without swift and meaningful action, more clinics will close down due to protests, restricting access to abortion care across the UK”

 I think you may agree that this is a truly appalling situation and the Government need to step up and do something about it – urgently! 

Bpas have an online form so that you can email your local MP and I urge you to do so. 
I can assure you that I will not give up and I will not allow the anti abortion protestors to win. I do need your help though! So keep sharing the petition and keep emailing your MP…..send as many as possible. 


Many thanks for all of your support 


Body hair 


I’ve been meaning to subject you to a blog about my struggles with body hair for a few months now. After reading an article about Chinese student Xiao Meili and her armpit hair competition, I thought I would write a few words about it. 

I became aware of my body hair in the last year of junior school. I was horrified to find that I had started to grow pubic hair and promptly shaved it off. The appearance of this hair made me feel dirty and I was emmbarrased by it. The  tortuous itching that followed, when it started to grow back, made me vow to never shave it off again. 

Then there was the leg hair, that had to come off too. It really ruined my desire to grow up, no one had told me that this would happen to my body. I found my changing body to be quite revolting. This was further cemented when I was doing backstroke in a Yr 7 swimming lesson. One of the girls saw my armpit hair and recoiled in horror. Suddenly, I was aware of how disgusting body hair on a girl was. 

I started waxing my legs in my mid teens and I thought that I had it all under control. Then my upper lip started to sprout fine, long hairs. I started to bleach my upper lip but this seemed to make the hair growth worse. I’m not sure if it was a factor but I was incredibly underweight and have read that your hair grows longer to try to keep your body warm ….. Needless to say, I felt like a yeti and an ugly yeti at that. 

My upper lip continued to cause me a lot of upset and my confidence (what little I had anyway!) floundered. The ‘icing on the cake’ came when my boss told me that I had better moustache than he did. I spent the next few weeks using my long hair to cover my face. The woman that waxed my legs said she could wax it off for me and do my eyebrows (which had never been touched). I agreed with gusto! 

I can’t tell you how  free I felt when that hair was ripped off. It bloody hurt and made my eyes water but I instantly  felt more like a woman instead of a freak. 
You may be reading this thinking why I’m making such a fuss about a few hairs (especially as I’m lucky to have fair hair that doesn’t show as much). I’m going to assume that you are either a man or a woman who has never had an issue with body hair. I can understand you thinking that of me, it is rather vain. 

The thing is, when society tells you that body hair on girls and women is wrong, what do you do? Now, I know that some of you don’t remove your body hair and you are the women that I need to thank. Thank you for giving me the confidence to allow my body hair to grow …. A bit! 

I’m not completely cured! I did grow my leg hair over the winter and goodness me, my skin had never been so smooth. Free from ingrown  hairs and the itching that follows (and the bleeding and scarring from scratching my legs to pieces) my skin healed. I have to confess to waxing since Spring…. Also, any hair on my face that I don’t like, is plucked out! I don’t wax my upper lip anymore as it was giving me spots.

On that subject … Please don’t wax your bikini line! I used to get a brasilian wax done. It looked great for a few days and then went all spotty and made me look diseased! Not a nice look. My pubic hair now grows as it pleases 🙂 Which reminds me of something rather horrible (funny how memories come back like that ….). My ex husband hated body hair and insisted that my pubic area was completely shaved. He used to insist on shaving it off too with an electric razor. I feel sick at the thought 😦 I asked him why he wanted me to look like a prepubescent girl…..he said my hair got in the way and ruined (can’t bring myself to write anymore on this sorry ….). 
So anyway, a thank you to the women who grow their body hair and to the women who aren’t ashamed to show it! You’ve all given me the confidence to put the razor down and, like when I first had my upper lip waxed) I feel free and liberated by it.
Love, tea and hugs